Longer Life Span One of the good things about being a woman has something to do with mortality rate. And it also causes a lot of unnecessary anxiety in women. Dangerous stuff. The part that scares me is that when I tell people this they seem to be like "oh...and?". I don't agree with everything he says, but I definitely think both traditional gender roles are bullshit, and neither men nor women need to do anything under duress based on antiquated social dictates. Warren Farrell makes some good points. Journal of Psychology and Human Sexuality, 2,39-55. 2. I couldn't avoid to feel like a coward, I was at all times avoiding eye contact with ladies around as I was afraid they will tell me "go on, Joe, get in and fight the bull, let us see you in action" as they managed to succesfully push many other insecure men around to do it while it was clear they didn't want to do it in the first place but as a lady was asking for them to do it they had no chance but to obey the ladies. But once again, women don't reciprocate men's platonic interests in friendship either. ⦠The doctors make money by performing them, and as well there seems to be social pressure among Americans to do it, so there lies the problem. I did not have a happy childhood probably because only my mother was available for attachment and she proved wanting. Males are more likely to get injured and killed, but it's usually because they are less likely or willing to practice common sense avoidance strategies. Gender differences in receptivity to sexual offers. If you go hang around almost any emergency room in any reasonably sized city, you will see a steady stream of young males staggering in, or being wheeled in, with knife wounds, gunshot wounds, gashes from broken bottles, or fractured skulls from baseball bats aimed at their heads. I don't think that its a "luxury" we often don't have a choice. I think I'll just add those together, multiply them and flavor them with any other near-death experience I've had and I'm pretty sure that's what it's like to push out a human child...however, minus the end result: your baby* (which you should be totally estatic to be able to have), *actually I envy women's child-birthing ability. Someone to cuddle with, to make love to, someone to comfort me. For most men, that's boring as heck. How do you know that? I'll suggest that men and women have similar enough potentials for mental achievement that it's a waste of time to be concerned about biological differences between the sexes in general intelligence. Most of the people who will never be able to find a mate are males. It's a choice, to accept it if we want to. As a female you say: someone will protect me, and if not, someone will be held accountable (to the full extent of the law--maybe more), because I am a woman and I am a pristine thing which is meant to be properly protected. More worryingly, being beautiful or handsome could harm your medical care. It seems we perceive beautiful people who are the same sex as a threat. ;]. I don't care what anyone says...there is no point to calling yourself a "Feminist" (and barely any merit, or good points) about calling oneself a "Masculinist". Men on the other hand might be accused as a group of being insensitive by women and be more of a stereotype of a men from men peer pressure and from other (sometimes the same !) Sexual attraction Towering, statuesque men do tend to have more allure. David Robson reports. Men are more likely to be attackers and murderers so if a stranger approached me in broad daylight and offered sex the second thought to pop into my head would be, 'He wants to get me alone and torture or murder me.' As a doctor, for example, he can’t even perform the Heimlich manoeuvre, but somehow managed to drift through medical school thanks to his natural charm. Not only do we have shorter lines at the restroom, but we make scads more money and can reach things on higher shelves in the marketplace. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 91, 281-294. At the end a woman asked me "why you didn't go there? Paradoxically if you want to combat inequality you should be "feminist" and strongly assess that we can help each other, but to expect us to be providers just for being male (starting from the tradition of bidding dinner) is out of question, and lesive of their dignity as autonomous person, for which rights the feminists fought. It's like saying "I'm sorry you feel that way"? If a good looking guy hits on an average looking girl....she would either think that he is just playing around with her or he must be a loser for hitting on her because she thinks he can do better. But unfortunately, most real women essentially find most real men rather scary, unattractive, and unsexy, and they consequently say "no. I still love them. Especially in academics. Surely I wouldn't be a totally promiscuous girl, with that reality. A surprising majority had. We're propping women up on many fronts in society today. Also pattern of natural selection which sometimes still resist in our relationships seem to promote the very same behavior women despise of men, which makes them scary and hypercompetitive, percetion projected against "nice guys" as well. Of course, decreased mortality, etc. But most homicides and assaults do not involve self-defense, and many involve victims who are completely blameless. But no matter how much I kvetch, complain, write and beg, no government official is interested in setting up any government program to curtail the violence among men. I would very regretfully say no. Well some people don't make the dinstinction, but yeah it's not men, it's chauvinism that oppress women and men, especially women in past, but still harmed men in different ways, making them feel superior, but more disposable at the same time, but still not so reduced to objects and property, ake reified. Haha, yeah, when my ex was acting violently and destroying my property and stalking me and behaving in a threatening manner all anyone in our social circle could say was "wow, what a whore, she left him! Whilst preparing my lectures, I was not shocked to discover that men are overwhelmingly represented in several diagnostic categories, sometimes called "impulse control disorders"—predilections that lead to alcohol and drug abuse, sexual misbehaviors of various kinds, violent outbursts, delinquency, problems holding down a job, and an overrepresentation in almost all categories of criminal activity (with consequent overrepresentation in arrest records and prison terms). Women live longer, get to wear more sequins, and are better communicators and leaders. In case you needed more reasons being a chick is great, here they are. Outgroup homogenity fallacy (see wiki), then did all to reinforce prejudice, and sometimes it still happens now. I find it kind of funny that women are always portrayed as these victimized innocent creatures, and men as these mindless brutes whoes sole purpose is to degrade them... people either dont know or dont care, but women are NOT moraly perfect, a lot of studies show that just as many men are being vicimized by their spouse as the other way around.. but women are supposed to be weak and men strong so people just dont get it, but women create victims too. I started pretending that men were the enemies, I was self-loathing because I thought since I was male, I was intrinsically wrong, and my male-ness/masculinity in any degree was just WRONG. We have it way easier than the fairer sex. Indeed, the desire to find mates inspires men to show off in various and sundry ways, to take various kinds of risks, and to make a fool out of themselves in diverse ways. We have to be aware of our surroundings--HAVE TO. She kept asking me all these ridiculous questions she knew I didn't have the answers to and being extremely bitch-y...as if *I* was the criminal! And I'd say that it's better to be an average male than an average female. 1. Kinsey also found that men were dangerously polysexual—he estimated that 40 to 50 percent of guys who grew up on farms had had sex with a nonhuman partner (cows and sheep must be more attractive than the squirrels and English sparrows we had in New York). Although the link between facial symmetry and real health is ⦠According to the available evidence, the bubble is a reality. As the writer Dorothy Parker put it so elegantly: “Beauty is only skin deep, but ugly goes clean to the bone.”. And psychologically speaking, it doesn't add up. I have not been out of a relationship for over a year, and have been miserable, but finding someone is proving so difficult and I am a really good social dancer, so am around women all the time. They expect that if you live in an area where men have to literally take care of and protect themselves (less they end up dead before anyone gives a crap enough to do something) that the men should be EQUIPPED somehow to deal with urban warfare. Thus, in these circumstances, attractiveness is an asset only for males; attractive females are more negatively viewed than are unattractive ones because of their greater perceived femininity and therefore greater person-job "lack of fit." I belong to the group of women who would definitely say yes to an offer of sex that night if they feel safe. The downside of being an attractive woman JANE Curnow believes being attractive is a curse. I was walking home from the liqour store and I made a shortcut I commonly did, to get to the alley behind my house, which meant crossing through a church parking lot across from houses (no, this was a fairly decent area, not directly in "the city") and some guy was following me. First of all, not all men have the same rank and or power in a given culture. Good old testosterone, that same beloved hormone that inspires irrational competition, foolhardy risk, and sexual obsession, also shortens your life. So it can be lonely out there amongst the gangs of other male hooligans looking to steal your baseball cards and then beat you up. I think the issue isn't "We suffer more than you", "we suffer more than you, and we've kept quiet about it--for a long (long) time.". But the number of women who said yes to the sexual offer was precisely zero (the study was done twice, both before and after the AIDS epidemic, and the number was zero before as well as after). Men do make higher incomes than women, but it's not just because of discrimination against women and glass ceilings. Men prefer women as friends, perhaps because women are more likely to express social support and to talk about relationships instead of cars and baseball scores (see, for example, Barbee et al., 1993, or Bank & Hansford, 2000). Unattractiveness in the courtroom can have dire consequences. I find annoying and distracting all the non-sexual thoughts that I am forced to deal with countless times a day. And most importantly, just what good does it do to say things like that? In certain areas we're extremely on guard and paranoid. "Yeah...well whites have it bad too, buddy!". As I have learned over time that in American culture, being a real man is a bit of a joke. Cooly knock off a few bad guys in the afternoon, then drive our Aston Martins to our expensive hotel in Monte Carlo, where beautiful movie actresses are waiting to throw themselves into our arms. Obviously. oh and as for "people want to hurt men more". Good for you for creating your own definition of masculinity! Why conflate that to masculinity? While part of the culture, there are several potential advantages and disadvantages associated with circumcising boys shortly after they are born. People want to hurt you. Sadly though, my only ally is the cold-hard-truth, and no gender. The Problems of Being Very Beautiful. For years I taught students about psychological disorders in my classes on general and abnormal psychology. Women were never invited to go in and fight the bull. In a sense, it’s just a cognitive shortcut for a quick appraisal. A., Derlega, V. J., Gulley, M. R., Yankeelov, P. A., & Druen, P. B. 12/28/2017. Wilson, M. & Daly, M. (1985). An attractive woman can get a lot, but a charismatic male executive will be able to leverage good hair and > 6 foot height for many more years than an attractive woman can use her looks. women. The cultural stereotype is that it's great to be a man. While good looks can give you an unfair advantage in some walks of life, youâd be wrong to assume that being attractive comes without its pitfalls. But if beauty pays in most circumstances, there are still situations where it can backfire. The 50's? Boys/men are pushed to be as strong as they can where girls are bullied to have emaciated and child-like bodies to be considered as conventionally attractive. The issue is the issues not being talked about and taken seriously without some sort of back-handed de-certifying statement. As a result, masculinity, unlike femininity, is conditional in America and this causes much unnecessary anxiety that manifest in men constantly having to prove they are men; which is the root of many of societies problems. Clark, R.D., & Hatfield, E. (1989). Female disadvantage is having to carry mace everywhere you go, even though the chances of it actually protecting you are slim. Bank, B. J., & Hansford, S. L. (2000). Women are said to outlive men and this has been happening for centuries now. No one will protect us, no one will even call the freaking cops to help you. you guys have got it made; you're the most insane, psychopathic, unstable half of the population but you've got everyone convinced youre the most rational and everyones in denial that you do the horrible things you do. added up to about $230,000 (£150,000) over a lifetime, making them less likely to be hired for high-level jobs. And as you might expect, good-looking people of both genders run into jealousy – one study found that if you are interviewed by someone of the same sex, they may be less likely to recruit you if they judge that you are more attractive than they are. See at the same time that such sensitivity doesn't carry off much on the women which are supposed to appreciate it, because of aforementioned out group homogenity, while douchebaggery carries of much more, contray to the myth, it has many detractors among women, but those who appreciate it are more receptive, because it's consistent with the stereotypical man image, exactly like many man like the doll archetype of woman. While you're at it check out the abuse of children by women (but then, I'm sure there was a man egging her on.). However, I do take issue whenever ANYONE says "I suffer MORE THAN..." anyone else. Women have less pressure to choose an high-flying career and are freer to go for the low-paid job that makes them happy. ahhh!! The opposite applied actually. I was once purposely bumped by a muscular little guy in a bar, and chose to ignore it; but he was looking for a fight, and the next guy down the bar was a big motorcyclist, who told him to watch where he was going, for which said biker was quickly beaten and kicked into a bloody mess by the pushy (and apparently tough) young punk. have wonder why there is not enough government programs in Detroit.. across the board, not only those you've mention. Peacocks, Porsches, and Thorsten Veblen: Conspicuous consumption as a sexual signaling system. You feel compelled to make money, and then to throw it away in public. The society now is more mixed up and expects it for women too, but also obstacles and hinder them more, so you might happen to think they experience schizophrenic and antagonistic pressures. Men might have it more easy in being independent and self determinated, but most of the time it's not a choice but what society expects from you. Resort to traditional role are inversely proportional to the hindrance to job access women experience and (and here comes the contribution of us men) how many men are keen to allow women privilege and shortcuts for the most varios reason (other than the higher difficulty in finding jobs), on how keen we are to help them, not as a person, but by virtue of being a woman, maybe in expectation of sex or worse, in exchange of it in the workplace. 6. Ultimately, Frevert points out that focusing too much on your appearance can itself be detrimental if it creates undue stress and anxiety – even for those already blessed with good looks. Ten women out of 100,000 die during childbirth. There are plenty of programs for domestic violence that help women. Women prefer other women as friends. I called the cops even the cops while booking it, because I was sure the guy was still behind me. 4. Sidenote: Ladies...there's nothing like the feeling of getting attacked or having to fight or outrun a predator. The saddest part is that I didn't just make this all up. Regardless of the topic, I also find that when being challenged on your truths, these two are usually the response. 2. We're supposed to be the "cheerleaders", not "coldhearted bitches". 1. That mentality says, in coded language, that if you complain about your role as a man you are not a "real" man; which is bogus.This attitude is dominant in America. Here in the UK it is only done for religious or medical reasons. Personally I think it's preferable to have the choice to get into a fight, if it's something you really believe in and it's really important to you, knowing you have a chance of winning it, rather than being forced to go around potentially in fear because you know you'd have no chance in a fight against almost any man. Kenrick, D.T., & Sheets, V. (1994). Effects of gender role expectations on the social support process. Confusion because the person is not as grounded in their beliefs as they would like to have been, and hostile because you just exposed them to the reality that their truth is questionable. Disadvantage of being handsome according to my friend: Gay guys think youâre a gay. I hope I'm making it extra clear that I am not dismissive of suffering and that I feel it certainly needs to be acknowledged. Tell me about it. 2. ", 5. So being an "average" male today, really equates to be a bum a couple generations ago. Who doesn't really exist (or is slowly going extinct). no males attack males for being...males. You're surrounded by fake people. I confidently said "you know, I was eager to do it and I was about to do it as I raised my hand many times and shouted out loudly but sadly the entertainer didn't notice me...". Is Our Idea of the “Ideal” Body Malleable? No matter how down in the dumps any given female gets, she will always be able to find a more successful male willing to help her out due to her 'feminine charms' if nothing else. not to mention the fact that it is awful to try to deal with the police when these types of incidences occur. Would you like to go to bed with me?" Have you have had a homicidal fantasy today? However, that said, there's nothing better than being a successful male. âI tâs not easy being a man, you know,â Dylan Moran once said. (2011). It's not true that women and men don't share interests, we just project prejudice toward each other, and I expect someone with supposedly 150 of QI (yes I have read one claiming to have such QI (compared to his stupid wife) writing mysogystic stuff like he doesn't care for women minds). Below you'll find a small sample of the references documenting the sad plight of those of us handicapped with a Y chromosome (for the other side of the story, see The 7 BEST Things About Being a Male.). Get the help you need from a therapist near you–a FREE service from Psychology Today. Like it's not the nature of white men which made so that black people was eslaved, but the political and economical power relationshp conjuncture for example. Also see these (depressing) stats: something along the lines of "it's not a contest". Going along versus going alone: When fundamental motives facilitate strategic (non)conformity. reflecting further, this is surely a society issue. Too bad a characteristic of many of us men is using the statistics as a weapon, so if you name domestic violence as something statistically attributed mostly to men, they feel the need to retaliate or deny it, as if it amounts to a criminalization of men in general. My comment was in no way trying to discredit the very valid concerns that men (or anyone else, for that matter) have. For women, sitting around and talking about our problems is a great day. If a man in the rodeo ran away from the agressive bull they shouted "coward, coward, be brave, be a man, you chicken". because a COOL DUDE like him wouldn't do that right? Sometimes this is seen as a masked and disguised chauvinism revival, especially when used to deny or minimizing the contemporary oppression of women, so that has to be made clear in order for the listener to drop the defensive shield toward argument, the idea that you simply want more equality and more justice and not only a group rivendication. (I personally disagree with a lot of feminist discourse for this very reason, and I'm a woman). I was surprised you didn't name check Steve Jones "Y The Descent of Man" which touches on all these subjects. The researcher seemed to take the findings as a blow to what she called "essentialism." Who cares? Being muscular erases almost all of the disadvantages you may have in regards to attracting the opposite sex. Not feminists, but some women who claim themselves being feminists, but are actually confused and often entitled. How a passing mood can profoundly alter your economic decisions. Any man bashers aren't true feminists, and feminist bashers make men look bad. Read about our approach to external linking. Depression affects us just as much, but we're probably less likely to commit suicide bc we consider the consequences for our loved ones. (2006). And the reciprocating of such behaviors only reinforce each other. I see you so quick to throw men under the bus what about the stand up men that protect women and children I didn't hear you mention them what about the women that molest their students that's not considered real bad will I was raised and was told not to never hit on women all my life isn't that funny though that women take advantage of that I don't believe any woman should be beat on hit on her or anything like that but let's not Point your finger at men I know you want somebody to blame but that just shows how shallow you are when you're so quick to want to throw me under the bus and talk about the heinous crimes they did people like you were sorry for all the men you know in this world compared to all the men that's actually in this world you probably met less than 1% of men in the world so just say something like that is stupid try to separate men from Monsters and I'll separate the women from the monsters. The point about pregnancy is overstated and for most women, pregnancy is far safer than say driving a car. And then you die (younger). Your prejudice is that women don't want to take risk. I did the exact same thing with my femininity, and just like you, I lost some friends as well but I agree wholeheartedly that it's for the best. school shooters almost always have a past of violence against girls. The abuse that same w/ serial killers. We can always count on some angry downer to pull men back into the oppressor / abuser category. He was one of the founding FATHERS of the movement.
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